Not knowing what career I want to pursue in my life has really put a hold on EVERYTHING. Well…I have allowed it to put a hold on everything. And I like to consider that everything my “love life.”
Before I get into this post, I want to take a moment to give thanks to God. Thank you, God, for allowing me to write on this subject of love and patience. My last two written post have talked about love, but that’s all. I wasn’t in the state of mind to truly understand patience and God’s timing. So I hope that I am able to provide a new sense of positivity in someone’s life who may have that spirit of impatience!
I didn’t mention this in my previous post
, but I told God that I don’t want to get into a relationship until I’m independent. That almost sounds like I’m making a promise to God and if you’ve read Promises to God
then you know that promises aren’t necessary for your relationship with God.
It’s funny because I was thinking about that weeks ago: how I basically made a promise to God and how unnecessary it is! Y’all already know that I’m slightly in my feelings when it comes to my relationship status and when I thought about that promise I was like, “Why would I even promise that?” Why would I subject myself to something I haven’t prepared myself for??
I know what I want in my life and I know that I want someone who is on my level, reading the same book, in the same chapter, but not necessarily on the same page, you know what I mean?
I’ve probably already said this, but I’m going to say it again: Life is all about Love. #GodisLove #JesusisLove Without love, where is your life? What is your life? What is life??
There are many different types of love, but I’m going to tell y’all about the type of love I’m talking about:
I’m not going to front like I don’t have people in my life who don’t love me because I do! However, the type of love I receive from them isn’t romantic. I don’t want this to sound odd, but when you think of your immediate and extended family and friends, it’s more of a support system. Hoping that you are able to achieve all of your goals and ultimately find someone who you can spend the rest of your life with. For example, most of my happy moments are spent with those people and those moments are EXTREMELY enjoyable. But I feel like there comes a point in our life where it’s time to be able to enjoy those moments with someone who you connect with on a different level.
I know y’all know what I am talking about!
Why am I the only one content with being single??
There was a time when I didn’t understand this type of love. Since I have always been single, I’ve gotten used to being alone and not needing anyone. So, I figured that since I was “content” with being alone, other should be too.
This happened either a year or two ago, but I remember being in Sunday School and one of the Sister’s talking about a man and how she wants or needs one (I forgot how she worded it, but somewhere within that context). She was speaking more towards the physical aspects, meaning she wanted or needed, that physical touch. While she was talking, all I could think was, “But you have God, why do you need a man?”
Now, I know that that was very naive of me to think. During that time, I didn’t understand that physical craving and not even speaking sexually; literally just feeling that physical touch. I believed that since God is ALWAYS here for us, why do we need a man? (Single women problems! Lol) The main correlation I made with being in a relationship was sex. Of course, I knew that there were other things to a relationship and marriage, but sex was the main thing that came to mind. Since I thought that way, I assumed everyone else thought the same. I also believed that sex neglected God, so why were people having it? Lol, Y’all pray for me!
To wrap up this short “story,” now I know what she meant and how she was feeling. Yes, God can do EVERYTHING, but God doesn’t want you to feel neglected physically; we are human! That’s why I like to believe that God has someone for EVERYONE.
Realizing that God has someone for me, that my God given husband is out in this world looking for me, I’m good. Lbs What God has for me, it is for me. I feel that people forget that what God has for you, is for you and no one else. And what that means is that you’re going to get your blessing!
Lamentations 3: 31-33
“The Lord is merciful and will not reject us forever.
He may bring us sorrow,
but his love for us is sure and strong.
He takes no pleasure in causing us grief or pain.”
You may see good happening to other people, receiving their blessings, getting married, working their dream job. And you’re wondering, “why them and not me?” Trust me when I say that I used to think the same way!!! Especially for those who, on the outside, didn’t seem like they even deserved that blessing. That’s none of my business and I’m going to mind my own because I know that God wants the best for me. God wants the best for ALL of us. Don’t ever feel like God is punishing you because as long as you are trusting in Him and talking to Him, He will be merciful.
Let’s Quote this:
This statement doesn’t have a direct correlation to God, but what makes it sad is that it took this statement for me to truly realize that God really does have a husband for me.
Every time I speak about anything regarding my love life, I feel like I’m crazy. It’s not that I think that I’m crazy because I know I’m not. But if I were a follower of this world, it would be crazy of me to believe that there is a higher being who is going to send me my husband.
To reflect on this statement, some of us may believe that we have to achieve specific goals in order to get our spouse or partner. There was a time when this applied to me: I knew the type of men I was attracted to and I looked at the type of women they were attracted to. I would then try to basically become that woman he physically desired.
I will definitely address that type of thought process in another post, but I know that I am not the only one who has thought that way. I can say that because I know that there are multiple people who can relate to the statement above.
NO MATTER what stage you are at in your life, the person who is meant to be with you, will be with you. Continue to do works that will better yourself and everything will fall into place.
“Keep on sowing your seed, for you never know which will grow-
perhaps it all will.”
There always comes that time when you want to give up because you haven’t seen any results, but you never when that reward is coming. The next time you try could be the time that you succeed! I honestly believe that’s the joy is God’s work; He doesn’t even use time. We allow time to consume our life that we forget to actually live! We’re only focused on the things that we want when we fail to realize we have our ENTIRE life to get them.
2 Timothy 3:14
“You must keep on believing the things you have been taught.
You know they are true.”
We always know the truth, we just aren’t always willing to accept it. We try to find an easier route. The key is to not give up…!
I was originally going to title this post, “What type of future are you sowing?” But then I found myself writing about love and that title seemed too broad for such a specific topic. In my future posts, I may use some of the same verses and “wording” to help bring everything together. I just hope it doesn’t come off as me repeating myself. However, I will allow the Lord to guide me in that writing.
I want to know your thoughts on love and patience in relation to your life. Do you have a story or a testimony you’d like to share? I’d love to know!
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Thanks for reading,